Need an uplift? Have a go at cuddle dancing with your child!

Last night, I put on one of the music channels on as my daughter (18 months old) loves to dance around.  Trying to find a video without half naked women was a challenge, but that’s for another article.  Anyway, I found a song that had a nice dance beat with happy, clothed singers…Once the music went on my daughter turned into the penguin in Disney’s movie ‘Happy Feet’.  She stomped up and down, did a few twirls and then suddenly looked to me for something more…

I said, ‘are you looking at me?’ and she said, ‘yes.’

I said, ‘do you want me to dance with you?’ and she said ‘peeease’ (please).

So…I stood up, scooped her up and started to bounce.  I’m a bouncer…not a dancer.  I have no rhythm and fear the dance floor, but lucky for me my daughter didn’t mind…

My daughter squealed with laughter, hugged my neck tighter and tighter and threw out her little legs over and over.  She put her cheek to mine or snuggled into my shoulder squeezing tighter and tighter. The experience was a combination of dancing and cuddling – cuddle dancing!

What a moment!  There’s no doubt about it, I was living from my heart and enjoying the journey.  So – if you need an uplift in your day…find a child (if you don’t have one yourself, I’m sure you can borrow one) and boogie it down with a cuddle dance.

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How to find more enjoyment with your children

I love my daughter more than anything else in this world and that includes me!  When I was pregnant I stopped drinking alcohol, gave up my crack cocaine habit (just joking  – I don’t do drugs – heheeheh), I ate vegetables and drank my 6 glasses of water every day.  I relaxed and made sure I was feeling calm so to provide the best womb experience possible… (yes – this is the world of Kim that’s writing right now).

And now that my daughter is a little being (17 months) I’ve been working hard to understand child development.  I don’t want to be a parent that spoils their child but I don’t believe in tough love either.

Anyhoooo…parenthood is freaking hard work!

No matter how good a parent you want to be it’s often impossible to understand what the heck kids are thinking or feeling.  I have however noticed one thing that seems to work and I want to share this with you.

I’ve found that I can’t plan anything with my daughter – I have to simply go with the flow.  If she’s in a good mood I go with it and laugh, play and make sure I’m totally focused on the present moment (now).  If her teeth are bothering her or she has a cold I cuddle her or work to distract her from her issues – and of course, I make sure I’m in the now with her.

It seems that the more present I am (the more in the now that I am) – the more I let go of what I should be doing or what should be happening the calmer she is…and the more peaceful I am.

And my job is not to make my child happy – my job is to support her wherever she is.   In order to support her best, I need to let go of everything else that’s in my head and go with the flow.

So…if you’re looking for more enjoyment in the area of children, be present with them and see what happens – to both them and you!

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